Saturday, June 16, 2012

What Can Our Children Learn -- And When? Advancing the Cause of Human Relationships

Aaron, four, sat on the carpet under the arch between the dining and living rooms scribbling in a pad while his brother, Chris, seven, sat by the coffee table learning his multiplication tables. Their mother, Lynn, sat on the sofa turning flash cards toward him.
“Nine times three.”, she would say.   “Twenty seven.,” he would reply and await the next challenge. At some points, he’d hit a snag and have to pause a few seconds. “Twelve times 9.” (Pause)

It was then that Aaron would chime in with the answer, “One Oh Eight.” he would say without lifting his head from drawing figures. He did not try to answer each question, but he often jumped in when there was a pause.

Chris would bite his tongue until he couldn’t take it any longer. Then he would say, “Look, I’m the one who’s learning this. You’re only four. I’m seven. You’re not even supposed to know this yet.”

What this tells us is that children, like adults, learn when they learn. They learn when they are exposed to things, from math to hunger. And learning opens the door to more learning and more growth. The real question is, “What can we expose our kids to that will help them grow and develop into the people they can become.?”

Fast forward to 2011. Educator John Hunter is presenting to an audience at a TED conference recounting his journey as a teacher and as the designer of the World Peace Game (http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/en/john_hunter_on_the_world_peace_game.html)

In his game, now some thirty years old and current with the times, Hunter brings challenges to nine year olds that far and away transcend multiplication tables, and it is clear that his students are up to the challenge. No one says. “You’re not supposed to know this yet.” Which brings me posit this question: Have we limited our children’s personal growth and development by setting artificial barriers to what they should know and by when?

Some might reply that these are ‘gifted’ children, above the norm. I concede they are. But I also believe that there are many others just like them who have the same abilities but who were not blessed with a nurturing home environment where they could flourish. For them, such challenging classes can elevate their performance and increase their desire to participate in school for just those reasons. They can be exposed to serious issues and not lose who they are. They can, instead, become more than they might have had they not learned.

One boy in the video particularly stood out when he reflected on what he learned. He said, “One of the things I learned was that other people matter. In this game, one person can’t win, everyone has to win. And I think that taught me a lot about cooperating with other people, being generous, and having an attitude that, if you work together, you can achieve anything.”

Before adding your comments, please look at the clip from the video,  a documentary about this special program. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lCq8V2EhYs0 . Ask yourself, “Can I as a parent learn from this and start different dialogues with my own children?”

As a grandparent of a 2 year old boy and 2 month old girl, I have to consider what I can do to elevate our dialogue together. After all that I have done, or not done, to this planet. I owe them that. 

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